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5 Reasons To Visit Thailand

Hey Cats,

If you are like me and have the travel bug you are constantly dreaming about your next trip and where to head off to next! I have so many places I want to go and one of them is definitely Thailand. A beautiful country that welcomes 1000s of visitors every day if you haven't been then you will want to go I will give you 5 reasons why you should pack that bag and book the flight today. Just take me with you please.


The Food












You may be thinking oh now come on I can try Thai food at a restaurant down the road but believe me when I say it is nowhere near the same. A lot of Thai restaurants that open in western countries tame the foods for the western pallet. When eating in Thailand you can experience true Thai food and taste the freshest ingredients grown right there in the beautiful country. There are so many beautiful flavours to try and you can get street food for super cheap and dine in beautiful restaurants by the sea or in the countryside with breathtaking views which can make any dining experience something to remember. From spicy shrimp soup to coconut chicken you can take your taste buds on an adventure make sure you try som tam!

The culture and People


Culture is extremely important in Thailand and there are many beautiful places to go where you can see culture expressed and represented in many ways. You can visit peaceful temples, local markets and visit beautiful sculptures. The best people to learn about the culture and traditions of Thailand are the people themselves. Thailand hosts a nation of welcoming and warm, friendly people who you can talk to. Part of travelling is getting to know people, go and shop locally and talk to people who offer guided tours be friendly, polite and respectful and you will get the same in return. Remember even if some of the traditions and beliefs you do not agree with always to be respectful of others cultures.


Luxury On A Budget

There are lots of stunning spa resorts in Thailand so if you want a break from a stressful life back home then Phuket Holidays can help you find luxury at a low cost. Really relax at a spa hotel where you can get massages, take some time out in the sea view pool or even go scuba diving. If you like your own space you can find some stunning villas to book for as little or as many people as you need to have travel with you with some amazing facilities that you can relax and enjoy after a long busy day. Holidays are about relaxing so take advantage of the rest time and you may be surprised at how cheap it can be to have a luxury break on a budget.

Breathtaking Scenery



The scenery you can see in Thailand is just breath taking before my friend went out to live there I thought Thailand was all beaches but it is also full of beautiful green countryside with stunning flowers and windmills. Just think how stunning your Instagram feed will look when you go on a trek in the country or even more exciting in the jungle.  

The Beaches


Lets face it when  you go on holiday you can trek up mountains and eat until you are fit to burst but sometimes the thing you want to do most is sit and contemplate on the beach watching the sea and really taking in the world. Thailand has so many beautiful beaches you can explore and with beautiful blue sea you won't be able to resist going in for a paddle. I love writing on the beach as it really helps me creatively flow and you can always build a sandcastle. 

Have you been to Thailand?


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Dating events to find love!

Hey Cats,

A great way to start dating is by attending events and there are lots of different things you can jump into. I know the thought of a dating event may sound cringe but if you have a few single friends you can make a real night of it and if you don't meet a perfect match you will at least meet lots of people and then hopefully have the confidence to try another. Plus you can pick up tips and find out about other events from other people plus just the knowledge that everyone in the room is single is a big plus because there is nothing worse with hitting on someones eases partner.



If the words speed dating send a shiver down your spine have a think why? Dating is about meeting people and what better way than to meet lots of people at once especially if you get to sit next to your friend it will all be over in around an hour and you will have a ton of laughs and stories to tell and lets face it if anyone is a nightmare you only have to talk to them for a short time instead of all night which could be a saviour.

 I think speed dating is a fantastic way to meet people you may not have chatted to at first but might spark with instantly and it is great practise for dates. There are lots of speed dating events around now as they have grown more popular you can check out some here at speed dating in Lothian, speed dating in Nottinghamshire, speed dating in county down, speed dating in Gwent, or speed dating in Grampian. For events local to you look online and you will find lots or even set up one yourself and then you get first pick.



If clubbing is your scene then there are lots of singles only club nights these vary from rock nights to dance clubs. The only difference to a normal night out clubbing is that everyone in the room is single which puts you off to a better start and avoids any awkward misunderstandings. You get to dance the night away with fellow singles and if you're a music nut like me find people into the same music as you plus you know more what they are like before you go on your first date and more importantly if they can dance. So grab your friends and dance the night away if nothing else it is a fun night of dancing.


If you are more adventurous and maybe the only single one of your friends then singles holidays could be the best for you! Adventure awaits as singles holidays range from relaxing sunny beaches, luxury cruises or adventure holidays. A group from small to larger gets together and goes exploring/ Even if you don't feel this will find you a date it can be a good way to venture out on holiday without having to travel alone and means you have a group to discover new things with. Walking holidays and sports holidays are particularly popular for singles to band together on and then instead of getting lost in the wilderness you can get lost in someone else! How romantic to meet on holiday and a fine excuse to holiday for all those future anniversaries.

What kind of events do you go to find that perfect date?








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The Ultimate Self Care Pamper Evening

Hey Cats,

We are all so guilty of getting lost in either looking after others or working hard and forgetting to show ourselves some love, that is where we need to stop and take a breather. What better way to do that than have a self indulgent, relaxing pamper evening! Simply Be kindly sent me a package full of goodies to kick back and beautify. I want to share that me time with you in the hopes it will inspire you to take some time out for yourself to.


When it comes to a pamper session I love to start with a bath where you can just soak all those worries away. Bomb cosmetics make amazing bath bombs, fizzers, melts and bubble baths for all your bathing needs. Simply Be has lots of different sets from bomb cosmetics I chose the ice cream themed one because what is a self love night without ice cream of some sort. Relaxing is made so easy with bath bombs the essential oils nourish your skin making it baby soft after the harsh drying weather. The ice cream bath blaster not only looks beautiful but is packed with  sandalwood and bergamot essential oils.

I love bath bombs but for me a bath isn’t anything without lots of bubbles so this gift set is perfect as you get a vanilla sky bubble bath so combining the two and using the extra sweet castaway soap will leave you smelling and feeling delicious.


I love a good mask so went a bit crazy for a deep conditioning hair mask and a foot peeler from ok. Lovely Korean beauty inspired products to get you looking glam in no time. Hair masks always make me feel like my hair is getting a new feel, I try and do them monthly or even every two weeks hair masks aren’t just great for your hair but also for your scalp too. If I haven’t been wearing a hat in this blistering cold my sensitive scalp gets really dry and using a deep conditioner can be really soothing. I also try and use scalp masks or massage a good oil into my scalp and then wash out later. Coconut oil is perfect for this kind of thing but I found that the hair mask was easier to use and left my hair silky soft.

Peeling foot masks aren’t as instantly gratifying as they are a longer term thing after giving your feet a real treat and moisturise within a few days your feet will peel and hard skin will disappear. I will keep you posted!


Everyone knows the most comfortable of clothes id pyjamas and although we all look in horror when we see someone out and about in them I think secretly we wish we could all live in them. So comfy home clothes were super important because beauty sessions don't always have to be uncomfortable. Simply be lounge wear has so many cute pjs to choose from but I just had to have unicorns! A pair of night clothes that combines unicorns and rainbows is any grrrls best friend. I got these in a 20-22 but they go from 12/14 up to a 32/34 and for only£10 are a complete steal.

I picked up some L'Oreal dual cream which I put on straight from the bath to sooth my dry skin even though I have another treat in store for it. I have used this before and loved how great and awake it made my skin look which sounds crazy but the older I get the more concealer i find myself going through!

I also picked up an Sleep Mask from ohk! I had always been curious about sleep masks and what better time to try one out than in the winter when we get ill and the cold really gives our face a run for it's money. I get really red blotches from dry patches so have to crank up the moisturiser so this sounded perfect put on and night and let it do it's thing. I will let you know how soft my skin is after.



Lately finding time to do my nails is a real luxury and so I need to use quality products with a longer lasting polish. Rose gold is my favourite right now and Ciate has some beautiful products which you can grab from simply be. Even though this one was advertised as a beach look I think it is perfect for the upcoming party season with beautiful rose gold nails and a flash of glitter I just couldn't resist having a practice ready for the upcoming Christmas party. I love that this set has a coconut top coat to help protect our nails and keep them looking amazing for longer. I feel massively spoilt and relaxed thanks to Simply be and was really impressed with the range of items they had in their beauty section as I must admit I never seemed to check it out before but I will now.  Even better there is a black Friday special sale coming up so who needs more of an excuse to spoil themselves?

What would you have for your pamper night? Have you tried simply be's beauty section yet?



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5 Tips for getting on the dating scene over 40

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Dating is a scary scene for some but people make the mistake of thinking that the older you get the harder dating gets and personally I think that is not true, in fact I think it becomes easier. When you're really young and dating it is hard to know what you really want as most people at that age have no idea who they are yet or what life holds for them. As you get older you know more and more what you enjoy and you have your own stability in yourself and life in general. Maybe you have got out of a long relationship and are jumping on the dating scene for the first time in forever and things seem daunting or maybe you have been focused on your career life and now are ready and open to love. Whatever the reason dating can be a lot of fun if you let it.

1-Don't just settle!

Too many people get insecure meet a person that is free, single, has a job and think great they will do! Always play the field a bit first go on a few dates with different people until you get that spark. Sure you may get lucky and find someone straight away who makes you feel like a giddy teenager and then of course jump on that or them even. Just make sure you are aware of your own wroth and how deserving and special you are and you deserve to find someone who will love you and everything that comes with you!


2- Be Open and Honest

If you are a long time reader of my dating posts you know I harp on about being open and honest but it really is the key to any dating. As life moves on and we get to our 40s chances are you life comes with more than just do. Don't be misled into believing that your past relationships, children or family are 'baggage' of any form. Anyone who may think that about something so precious in your life is not worth knowing and equally be accepting that your future love may come with children and maybe even complications of their own. Combining adult lives at any age becomes complex but is always so worth it. Be proud to say yes you're a parent or no you have never been in a serious relationship because to the right person it won't matter it will be part of you.

3-Don't let the past control the future

The past is just that and nobody is telling you to completely forget your life before meeting new people because it isn't always that easy. Maybe your marriage just fell apart naturally or you could have lost some suddenly and unexpected in which case you should always remember them but let yourself move on. Equally if you have had a string of bad relationships don't bring those insecurities into your next relationships take the time to heal first and know that just because in the past your relationships haven't been successful doesn't mean this next one won't be your forever love but you have to give them that chance to be there.



4-Try Online Dating

Over 40 our lives our super busy there are friends to see, work to go to, kids to attend to and so much more life can be pretty hectic. How on earth can you get the time to meet someone if you have all this on your plate. Dating on the go is the future you can jump on dating sites on your phone or computer and get to know people at your fingertips and there are even specialised dating sites now that help you narrow down your potential dates. You may think dating sites are not for your age group but there are plenty of local and over 40s sites that you can visit some great sites include senior dating, Hampshire dating, Glasgow dating, Yorkshire dating agency, and Jersey dating agency. There are now so many places to choose from to find love!

5-Take your time 

Most of all take your time! Don't feel like you have to rush things which is one of the great things about online dating you can really take the time to get to know someone before you have even gone on a date. Go on as many dates as you can before you commit make sure they well and truly woo and appreciate you for the awesome person you are.

What are your tips?




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A- Z of inspirational women R is for...

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It's that time again to loom at inspirational women of the past and present and all the amazing things they do to inspire every day. It feels like only yesterday we started this series but if you're new be sure to go check out all the others so far and let us know who you would have put forward.


Lets start with a woman who represents the many who so many have depicted again and again and look to as a symbol of strength. Rosie the Riveter has become a bit of an icon adorning posters and t-shirts and still recognised to this day. The poster of Rosie the Riveter was used during World War II as a representation of all the women that had to step out of the feminine shackles and into a new world of working and being recognised as an equal. Women were the backbone of the UK during the war farming the lands, working the factories and keeping the country running. So Rosie is in fact not one person but represents any woman who needs the strength to carry on!


Rebel Wilson is out in the media loud, fat and proud she may be playing the fat friend in a lot of her roles but she does it with serious sass and style so much so you just want to be the one hanging out with her laughing your heads off and dancing the night away. She may have faced some very recent controversy from the plus size world in that she has been seen to be 'trimming down' but what is wrong with a woman being healthy and still very plus size health at every size is important.  I just hope that is Rebels motivation and not that the Hollywood world has finally got to her. With an arsenal of films and a clothing line under her belt this savvy business woman is a force to look up to.


Rachel Wiley is a strong, beautiful and talented woman. I have always been moved by poetry but hers just brings me to tears she can take you to places you didn't think anyone else understood. She is outspoken on issues of race, fat positivity, love and politics. A gift with moving words and a legend on the spoken word scene. If you have time to check out some of Wiley's work I urge you to just spend half an hour listening to some of her powerful worlds and try and tell me that you're not inspired because you will come away feeling rushed with inspiration.

Who did I miss that is inspiring to you?


Tips for taking care of your designer jeans!


Hey Cats, 




Did you know that on average, a woman owns seven pairs of denim jeans! When asked for reasons why they the love for these trousers, 56% said it was for their durability and 71% said it was for their flattering look. If we are going to keep spending money on jeans we may as well buy quality and find out how to make them last and keep their colour for longer. Trilogy Stores, stockists of designer skinny jeans, have provided us with some handy tips.

Better wearing and storing


Denim jeans are a go-to option for completing any outfit at any time of the year! We definitely get our wear out of them and want them to last as long as possible. There are some things that you can do to help maintain their flattering shape and fit.
The first step is to really wear them as much a possible before that first wash. Jeans are designed to mould to your body and the reason that old pair of jeans is so comfy is because it has had lots of time to really adjust to your shape. Washing too frequently has been known to fade the colour and damage the denim material. Instead, spot clean with a damp sponge or soft toothbrush to remove smaller stains. Or, if you feel as though your jeans need a freshen up, hang them outside to air or spray them with a fabric refresher.
When you are putting your jeans away resist the urge to use a clippy hanger as the clips can damage the waistband of the jeans and they have a habit of not hanging properly. The best thing to do is either to fold them and put them in a draw or just fold them over a hanger and let them hang that way.





Correct ways to wash

The way you wash your jeans is very important, over washing can lead to fading and wear which can shorten their wardrobe life. The best way to wash is to turn your jeans completely inside out, this will stop them fading and any buttons from snagging. If washing for the first time best to wash separately or you may end up with the dye running into other clothes. Also resist from putting more than a few pairs in the machine together because when denim is wet it just gets heavier and that could then also do damage to your machine which is more expensive to replace than a pair of jeans....well some!

A cool wash of 30 degrees is ideal even better if you have the time and patience for hand washing. The heat can destroy the elastane and ruin the fitting shape of your jeans. You can buy a denim wash that has been designed to care for the colour and fibres in denim, it is non-biological and suitable for washing your favourite pair of jeans. Keep to the rule of separate colours to make sure those lighter jeans don’t suddenly end up black. When it comes to coated denim, these jeans should avoid the washing machine completely try dry clean instead.

If you’re up for trying so,etching a little different then some suggest putting your jeans in the freezer! It can apparently keep yoUr jeans fresh but I wouldn’t suggest trying this in the winter. Another recommendation is adding salt and vinegar to a hand wash. This is meant to prevent colour bleeding and keep the fabric colour set for longer.
Dry it right!

So you have followed all the other tips and want to dry your designer jeans the right way without distorting them out of shape or losing that colour.

A big no to wringing them dry, this can cause the shape of the jeans to change and cause wrinkles and creases which can then become tricky to get out. Instead, roll up the jean and press firmly to release and excess water. You could hang the jeans up outside and allow to air dry, some people are against this as the sunlight can cause fading. Alternatively, you could dry on a flat surface indoors or use a clothes rack.
Avoid drying on a radiator or in a tumble dryer — the heat from these can do damage to the denim. For the same reason, avoid ironing your jeans — simply put them on and the creases will fall out on their own.
A final tip if in doubt read the manufacturer recommendations on the tag. The manufacturer knows the material the best and how to care for it without causing damage. Follow this advice for long-lasting jeans that will continue to flatter you.

What are your jean tips?




Sources

https://www.trilogystores.co.uk/product-care.aspx

Lets Go To Prom

Hey Cats,

A little fact about me you may not know is that I went to an all girls grammar school. Now it wasn't a boarding school and as a whole it was a pretty awesome experience in fact it is probably one of the reasons I find it so easy to get on with women and celebrate and encourage their successes but it did mean that we missed out on some things! We didn't have exciting end if year parties I think we had a disco once which was rad but not the same as having the amazing excuse to go all out for something special like prom! I have always loved the idea of going to a prom and love that it is now becoming more popular in the U.K. Any excuse to get dressed up and have a good time with your friends while celebrating finishing something as huge as school is totally needed and important.

What is the best thing about prom? All the amazing dresses and hairstyles of course so what better way than to pretend I'm getting to go to prom than choosing the perfect outfit and hairstyle for the day. The only other day most of us get to do this is on our big wedding day so come on the journey with me.

The Outfit

Formals are all about breaking out the big guns and going full on glamour. I know some ladies may strive to be a bit different and don an amazing stylish tux themselves but I am all about the dresses. I think I have a dress addiction and I love big full dresses with lots of detail and intricate quality work. There is something for every budget out there as high street retailers have really upped their game and are now catering for all shapes and sizes of glamorous goddesses in the making. For most people glamour is all about the maxi length a long flowing gown in a luxurious material but I just never feel right in a full length dress. I even have just the perfect dress for prom with a touch of Gothic glamour I would reach for my Chi Chi London Lottie dress. Chi chi has so many stunning dresses and really are worth the money.


The hair

I always wish I had a way with hair the truth is I just don't have the patience but there are so many beautiful prom hair styles. I would take this chance and get my bum into a salon I just love vintage salons and styles and just imagine all the beautiful curls. As I have fine hair back combing is my best friend and without the help of extensions I will never be rocking a voluminous Kardasian look. The 90s lover in me wants any excuse to rock a sparkly tiara or at least a beautiful headband. I would love lots of big curls or a cute beehive. Here are some of my favourites ..


The Make up 

If you are already spoiling yourself with a trip to the salon may as well really get pampered and have our make up done for us too. Even make up counters have upped their game but Mac go all out and provide beautiful looks. Booking a make up artist to do a group is also a great idea. You can't go wrong with killer lashes, a flick of eyeliner and red bold lips but I also love something more dramatic too! Here are some of my favourite alternative vintage inspired looks. 


Of course the look would need the perfect shoes and accessories but you can totally see I love Gothic glamour. What would you wear to prom?



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LGBT Friendly Dates In The U.K.

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Dating can get very hard when the specifics and dynamics of love change. The wide world of dating is usually aimed at 'straight' dating favouring that of men and women and meaning that there are a large number of dating sites for men and women and LGBT dating gets put into the background. Being bisexual I hated having my sexuality on dating sites as men seemed to take it as an open invitation to be like"woah man you like women too let's hook up with a girl together" and at the end of the day sexuality and preference in monogamy/polygamy do not go hand in hand. When I write about dating despite the fact I have chose to spend my life with a man I try to be inclusive as possible all dates I suggest are friendly for all.

In the LGBT scene the most important thing is a community, although the world is slowly becoming more accepting coming out almost daily is a difficult situation for many so having LGBT friendly places to go is vital! Which is why this post isn't just about dating but also finding places to build that community.  Lesbian dating in maidenstone is a great place to meet potential dates but where can you both meet fello like minded people. The Queen Arm's is a laid back pub who have karaoke nights and other fabulous events as well as serving food if you would prefer a quiet date.


Lesbian dating in Dyfed could take you on a different adventure as it may not be the first place that comes to mind but that is why it is so important to explore new places. This Welsh county is very picturesque so if you and your date are looking to make friends be in a friendly relax environment and get active then you can join the gay outdoors club , the  West Wales walking group band together to go on beautiful walks you can help your date discover the beauty of wales and you! West Wales meet once a month and walk on a Sunday and also have regular meetings and lunches. If you don't want to go alone you could look up lesbian dating in Clwyd  and find a potential match there. 


If drinking and dancing is more your scene then gay dating in Ipswich could be for you and they have a great bar called Colors who have lots of LGBT run events and nights out. Whisk your date onto the dance floor and spoil them with cocktails and you may discover their hidden karaoke skills before the night is out. Gay dating in Central is a great place to find a huge hub of places and events to go to as well as all the best places you may find a date. 


Where are you favourite LGBT friendly places to visit?



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